don't take it personally

there is A LOT of tension in the air right now. like i mean A LOT! it’s palpable in pretty much every dynamic, every relationship, every space. can you feel it? are you noticing it?

what can we do about it. that age old piece of advice that is so annoying to hear:
DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY

it’s annoying because it’s so friggin hard not to take things personally, even when we know it’s not personal. it’s hard not to be emotionally affected when someone is mean or short with us or cold towards us. it’s normal to feel something when this happens…yet the quicker we can come to a place of knowing that it’s not personal, the quicker we are going to be able to move into a different energy. 

a few weeks ago when i said DON’T TAKE THE BAIT i really meant it…and not just for that moment we were experiencing…for ALL THE MOMENTS…it’s not worth it to our nervous systems to take the bait…to get caught in someone else’s ill intentioned ways or emotionally explosive tendencies. 

here i am speculating, but i have a feeling that the reason we can become so reactive with one another, is because we all so deeply crave connection that we will try anything to create a bond with another being…whether that bond is healthy or not often doesn’t matter in the moment, we just want to feel connected. arguing is connection. “debating” is connection. riling someone else’s emotions is connection. 

let’s not fool ourselves for too long though! these kinds of connections built on tension and baiting and emotional immaturity will only lead us into further pain and ultimately further away from healthy connections. 

stay grounded. regardless of where you might be, remember your connection to the earth. whether you are a city or in the country or somewhere in between, we are ALL ON THE EARTH and have access to her grounding frequency. 

keep you nervous as regulated as possible - there are so many tools, from breathing more deeply, humming, singing, listening to frequency healing music, creating art, dancing, taking a bath, going for a quiet walk, listing to the birds…i mean, really, there is endless ways to soothe and calm our nervous systems.

practice the art of listening. sometimes it’s better just not to respond. listening can be a very active way of engagement. i’m not saying to stifle your expression or hold your tongue when it’s really important to vocalize something, just be more discerning of who and what you engage with. save your expression for when you will be fully heard and received, or for when it’s something that you certainly cannot move past without saying something or standing up for yourself. all i’m saying is be discerning. 

hang out with cats…they are pro stars at moving from tension to ease & relaxation in an instant. their energy is contagious and they have many lessons to teach about boundaries and being chill and minding their own business while still engaging in their curiosities. seriously, if you are needing to learn about and practice boundaries…hang with the cat world. 

don’t take it personally and don’t take the bait. let the tension dissipate and learn to relate in kind and loving ways to your own nerves system first and foremost. and good luck out there! kindness in the face of adversity is underrated.